ADHD Blog

The feeling you get as you replay the bad experience over and over again, in your head. Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) describes intense emotional pain triggered by real or perceived  rejection, criticism, or failure. While it’s not an official diagnosis in the DSM-5, it’s well recognized in ADHD communities because so many people with ADHD and neurodivergence experience it, often without having language for what’s happening. And that lack of language matters. Because

How RSD turns motivation into avoidance (and what actually helps) Perfectionism is often praised in our culture, or at the very least, looked at in a somewhat positive light. It gets labeled as “having high standards,” “being driven,” or “just wanting to do things well.” But in my work as an ADHD coach, I’ve learned something important: For many ADHDers, perfectionism has very little to do with excellence — and everything to do with emotional safety. More specifically, it’s o

If you’ve ever stared at a growing to-do list and thought, “Why can’t I just do the things I should  be doing?” You’re not alone.  For many people with ADHD, the issue isn’t knowing  what needs to happen. It’s that the moment something turns into a “should,”  your brain quietly (or loudly) hits the brakes. This is where ADHD and demand avoidance  overlap in very real, very relatable ways. The ADHD Brain vs. “Shoulds” Here’s the part most people don’t explain well enough: ADHD

If the holidays feel like a beautiful, chaotic, emotional circus every year… same. For as long as I can remember, I’ve overcommitted myself straight into holiday burnout, but with a smile on my face because IT’S ALL SO FUN! And also… so completely exhausting . Every December, my schedule becomes heavier and more demanding than I expect. - I sing with the Christmas Jam of Utah  band, which puts on a benefit concert to raise money for the homeless.There are rehearsals, self-pac

Let’s Talk About the Laundry Monster Every week, I make the same tragic mistake. I ignore the laundry. First, it’s just a casual pile. A couple of shirts. Maybe some socks doing the cha-cha across the floor. But then… the underwear situation becomes critical.  Suddenly, I’m running 37 loads in a caffeine-fueled panic, thinking, Why do we even have this many clothes?! You’d think that would be the hard part, right? Wrong. Because then comes Mount Kilimanjunderwear.  (Not Evere

The other day, my heart broke a little. A client of mine, an architect who has poured years of her life into mastering her craft, told me...